The best conversationalists

  • are 100% focused on you 

Because like everyone else, you like talking about you, your hobbies, your trips, your likes… That’s why people with similar hobbies/fans of the same stuff can talk for so long even if it’s only their first conversation.

  • are mentally present in the conversation

Because talking to someone who nods at the wrong moments and fail to answer the occasional question we throw at him/her is very off-putting. We might as well talk to a wall. As long as no one sees us. Don’t want people to think we’re crazy after all.

  • have a decent knowledge of the conversation topic, jargon, setting…
Because explaining the ‘basic stuff’ to people eats into the time we could have used talking about the things we really want to talk about. And not all of us are good at explaining, or learning new things. In this case, a curious face and a sharp mind will be very valuable to a good conversationalist wannabe.

There’re plenty of other things that make someone a good conversationalist. Including good looks. But that’s being judgemental. The most important aspect of a good conversationalist is being fully present in the conversation. Because once you’re fully present, the rest will fully more easily. In fact, for those who are wondering why I’m talking about conversationalists, ‘being fully present’ is the whole reason I wrote this.

Long story.

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Posted on February 13, 2012, in Random and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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